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Listening to Shame

In Healing, Marriage, parenting, Uncategorized on June 28, 2012 at 9:13 pm

Water says to the dirty, “Come here.” The dirty one says, “I am so ashamed.” Water says, “How will your shame be washed away without me.” Rumi

A friend of mine phoned me a few days ago seeking some advice and to be consoled. He felt his son was wrongly accused of something by his teacher and was pressurised into confessing he was the culprit. Read the rest of this entry »


What’s in the invisible bag we carry behind us?

In parenting, Spirit, heart & soul on January 31, 2012 at 7:53 pm

Some readers may ask what’s spiritual about parenting? I think today’s topic serves as an interesting look into child tantrums and adult ones too. We will look at what creates drama in families, especially dysfunctional ones, and how our state of consciousness has a role to play here.

In “a little book on the human shadow’ Robert Bly suggestions that when we were young we were a whole ball of energy “until our parents didn’t like certain parts of that ball”. To be love and accepted the child then begins to put parts of itself into an invisible bag that is carried behind us (in the unconscious). “we are told not be angry and so anger goes into the bag. If certain feelings are not allowed to be expressed in the family, even feelings of love and tenderness, they find their way into this invisible bag, which slowly grows full of one’s own energy, energy that has no place in the external world.” Read the rest of this entry »